There are thousands of people who are asking for money online. And there are thousands of people willing to give money. I need money, but I am not going to post my need and expect a bunch of strangers to fund me.
I know there are a lot of scams, so that is probably largely why I dislike of these sites. But beyond that, these sites make me angry.
To me it just seems preposterous to expect strangers to give you money. I think asking is one thing, but if you post it to a site there is an expectation of getting money. Maybe that’s what gets me mad–there seems to be a sense of entitlement about each person’s particular “need.” What makes one person’s “need” more important than another’s? And are these “needs” or simply desires or wants? When is asking strangers for money ok?
I need help from time to time–and have received help from people who know me or people who provide services within communities for people who strumble upon hard times, so I understand need. I have likewise given money to people on numerous occasions, so I understand giving.
I would love to hear what people think about sites like gofundme or indiegogo. Don’t tell me “it’s wonderful for people to give.” I do think that’s true. However, I am more interested in hearing whether these sites also make you angry and why. I want to understand why these sites bother me so much. It seems I should be saying things like “these sites show people are giving” or “they restore my faith in humanity,” but I’m just not feeling it. Why??